Values Clarification in Eating Disorder Recovery

EDIT™ Worksheets | Love Your Self Self-Image #5 | My Values Aesop once said, “Don’t let your special character and values, the secret that you know and no one else does, the truth—don’t let that get swallowed up by the great chewing complacency.” Aesop was onto something. Values are at the essence of who we are and that’s the great secret—what we value is who we are when no one else is looking. The voice of ED enjoys wrecking havoc in the lives of our clients. The clients we sit with might have difficulty naming what they value because ED has gained a foothold in their life. It is our job as intuitive therapists to help our clients find freedom from ED and an important part of this journey is helping our clients connect with his or her values. The “Love Your Self – My Values” worksheet is used to walk clients through the process of becoming reconciled to one’s True Self. When using this worksheet with a client, first walk through each value and make sure the client understands what each means. Encourage your client to fill in the “other” space if they know of a value that isn’t listed on the worksheet. Have your client circle their top ten values. Before they begin, have them circle the number one value that stands out to them. Explain to your client that this is a snapshot of what a client values right now, in the present moment. Other values might become a part of their lives later on. Let your client describe the importance of each value on their list. Why did the first value...

Eating Disorder Recovery of the True Self

EDIT™ Worksheets | Love Your Self Self-Image #3 | The Four Aspects of the “True Self” C.S. Lewis once said, “You don’t have a soul. You are a Soul. You have a body.” The clients who sit across from us on a weekly basis are these souls. Our clients are souls, hearts and minds that live within one body. These clients are often at war with their bodies. They don’t like the way their body feels or the way their body looks. One of the important roles of being an intuitive therapist is helping a client connect with the soul that lies within the body one rejects. The Love Your Self (Self-Image #3) worksheet is one of the best ways to help a client connect with their heart, mind, body and soul. When working with a client, it is most helpful to have the client start with the area they will most easily relate with. For instance, maybe your client is highly intelligent and he or she enjoys learning, begin with the sphere of the mind. Walk your client through the skills they have gained and the accomplishments they have made. Which accomplishments are most important to them? What does this mean about their values? How do the thoughts they think guide their lives? Continue walking your client through the remaining spheres. In the sphere of the heart, guide your client to connect with aspects of their personality and their capacity to feel a range of emotions. Specifically, explore how their heart gives them passion and desire in life. Guide them to explore how their heart draws them to connect with life – nature, animals, people. Who...

The Voice of the Eating Disorder

 EDIT™ Worksheets | Love Your Self Self-Image #1 | ED-IT Dialogue Ugghhh! My thighs are so fat and disgusting… I shouldn’t have eaten that, now I’ve got to get rid of it… I’ve had this eating disorder my whole life, I’ll never get better… Have you heard your clients make statements like these, or something similar? That’s the “Voice of the Eating Disorder” – or, ED. Explain this to your client, saying something like, “That’s ED talking right now. ED makes critical statements, like the ones you just said.” You can further explain to your client that ED can seem to dominate their mind, as if ED thoughts are the only thoughts they think. In early stages of recovery, the voice of ED can be very loud, chattering on and on with judgments and criticisms – but it’s often like background noise in your client’s mind, because they may not be aware of everything ED says. However, because these are the dominant messages in your client’s mind, the voice of ED can be very destructive to their physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing. These ED thoughts are what drive ED behaviors – as you re-read the three examples above, can you think of ED behaviors that might follow those thoughts? Encourage your client by saying something like, “You are not ED!  You have another voice within you, which gently counters the voice of ED, and encourages you on a path of recovery.” This “recovery voice” is what you are modeling for them as their therapist, especially when you offer compassionate feedback or guidance to take that next small but healthy step. When you are speaking to your client in this way, you are...