Eating Disorder Recovery of the True Self

EDIT™ Worksheets | Love Your Self Self-Image #3 | The Four Aspects of the “True Self” C.S. Lewis once said, “You don’t have a soul. You are a Soul. You have a body.” The clients who sit across from us on a weekly basis are these souls. Our clients are souls, hearts and minds that live within one body. These clients are often at war with their bodies. They don’t like the way their body feels or the way their body looks. One of the important roles of being an intuitive therapist is helping a client connect with the soul that lies within the body one rejects. The Love Your Self (Self-Image #3) worksheet is one of the best ways to help a client connect with their heart, mind, body and soul. When working with a client, it is most helpful to have the client start with the area they will most easily relate with. For instance, maybe your client is highly intelligent and he or she enjoys learning, begin with the sphere of the mind. Walk your client through the skills they have gained and the accomplishments they have made. Which accomplishments are most important to them? What does this mean about their values? How do the thoughts they think guide their lives? Continue walking your client through the remaining spheres. In the sphere of the heart, guide your client to connect with aspects of their personality and their capacity to feel a range of emotions. Specifically, explore how their heart gives them passion and desire in life. Guide them to explore how their heart draws them to connect with life – nature, animals, people. Who...

Intuitive Messages & Eating Disorder Recovery

EDIT™ Worksheets | Be True To Your Self Intuitive Living #2 | Intuitive Messages The emphasis of the Eating Disorder Intuitive Therapy (EDIT)™ approach is to guide our clients to shift from the voice of the Eating Disorder (ED) to the healing wisdom of the Intuitive Therapist (IT) within themselves. Through practicing the Be True To Your Self principle, clients discover how to become “Intuitive Eaters,” finding freedom from eating disordered eating. In addition, clients learn how to be “Intuitive Exercisers,” where they can truly enjoy the movement of their bodies, and actually have fun with fitness. As a first step towards Intuitive Eating and Intuitive Exercise, we can guide our clients with perspectives about Intuitive Living – the ways in which their Intuitive Therapist (IT) is trying to “speak” to them through a variety of messages, if they pay attention.. We live in a society rich with information. Whether it’s in a magazine, television show, online or even in a conversation, we hear and see messages everywhere. The voice of the Eating Disorder (ED) is formed from these external messages – dictating how to look, what to eat (or not eat), and most decisions in general. Our clients look outside themselves for guidance, wondering, “Who should I be?” Then, our clients seek approval from outside sources, questioning, “Am I good enough?” Recovery is about “turning up the volume” of the client’s inner guidance – the voice of their Intuitive Therapist (IT). Ultimately, clients will be able to “go within” to make decisions and receive validation. Clients may be so used to looking outside themselves for guidance, that this concept of “going within” may be very unfamiliar to them, and...

The Voice of the Eating Disorder

 EDIT™ Worksheets | Love Your Self Self-Image #1 | ED-IT Dialogue Ugghhh! My thighs are so fat and disgusting… I shouldn’t have eaten that, now I’ve got to get rid of it… I’ve had this eating disorder my whole life, I’ll never get better… Have you heard your clients make statements like these, or something similar? That’s the “Voice of the Eating Disorder” – or, ED. Explain this to your client, saying something like, “That’s ED talking right now. ED makes critical statements, like the ones you just said.” You can further explain to your client that ED can seem to dominate their mind, as if ED thoughts are the only thoughts they think. In early stages of recovery, the voice of ED can be very loud, chattering on and on with judgments and criticisms – but it’s often like background noise in your client’s mind, because they may not be aware of everything ED says. However, because these are the dominant messages in your client’s mind, the voice of ED can be very destructive to their physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing. These ED thoughts are what drive ED behaviors – as you re-read the three examples above, can you think of ED behaviors that might follow those thoughts? Encourage your client by saying something like, “You are not ED!  You have another voice within you, which gently counters the voice of ED, and encourages you on a path of recovery.” This “recovery voice” is what you are modeling for them as their therapist, especially when you offer compassionate feedback or guidance to take that next small but healthy step. When you are speaking to your client in this way, you are...

Eating Disorder Coping Skills

 EDIT™ Worksheets | Express Your Self Coping #1 | The 5-Rs   Eating disorder behaviors can often be impulsive – your clients may sometimes feel like “ED just takes over.” As your clients progress in recovery, they realize that there is a moment of choice – although at first it may be very brief. This is the window of opportunity for your clients to use alternatives to their eating disorder behaviors as a means of coping. In that moment of choice, your clients may not be able to think of their healthy coping skills – that’s because ED (Eating Disorder) is the predominant voice in their mind. In that moment of choice, your clients may be able to access IT (Intuitive Therapist) for a brief moment – long enough to think, “Hmmmm, what could I do right now instead of giving into ED?” This is where the 5-Rs Worksheet can be essential! If your client has completed this worksheet in session with you, or as a homework assignment, then they have the completed worksheet to refer to in their moment of need. When ED is active in their mind, they may have a difficult time remembering IT’s suggestions for healthy ways of coping. But if they pull out this completed worksheet, then they have plenty if ideas to use as alternatives to ED. Let’s look at each of the 5-Rs, so you can guide your client to complete this worksheet. The 5-Rs represent five different areas which the client can consider accessing based on their specific needs in the moment. Each of the 5-Rs begin with the letter R (to make these easier for your...

Benefits of Eating Disorder Recovery

EDIT™ Worksheets | Believe In Your Self Recovery #1 | Winning the War Within Eating disorder or eating disorder recovery? That is a decision that many clients make every day – and sometimes multiple times a day. It can often feel like a “war within” – as the client’s voice of the Eating Disorder (ED) seems to compete with the recovery wisdom voiced by the Intuitive Therapist (IT). Rather than dismissing ED’s arguments for “giving up on recovery” and “giving in to eating disorder behaviors,” it can be helpful to look more closely at exactly what ED is saying in the client’s mind. Similarly, it can be helpful to guide clients to examine their recovery wisdom in more detail, to notice the risks of their eating disorder behaviors and the benefits of recovery. This worksheet walks clients through the various ED and IT messages, so they can clearly see the perspectives of both sides. Clients can “win the war within” as they honor ED and IT – and then make a decision where they choose to place their attention. If 51% of the client’s mind is focused on the benefits recovery, while 49% still considers the seeming advantages of their eating disorder – then recovery “wins.” The idea is to gradually guide clients to shift the percentage, so ultimately 100% of their attention is given to IT’s recovery wisdom. This worksheet can be done in session, or assigned as homework. Suggest that the client start by completing the corner of the grid where their thoughts seem to be the strongest in that moment. For the purpose of illustration, let’s look at the top left corner first. Here, the client...